When a couple argues frequently, friends and family members may not express that much surprise to find out that the couple is getting divorced. Meanwhile, if a couple never seems to have any conflicts and also announces that they are getting divorced, those around them may be far more surprised. They didn’t see any of the warning signs and so they didn’t think that this would be the outcome of the marriage.
You can see why people do this because signs of conflict make it clear that something in the marriage may not be working properly. But is there an actual correlation? Only in some cases. In others, the opposite is true.
A decline in arguments
For one thing, remember that a sharp decline in arguments and conflicts can actually mean that divorce is closer than it was before.
For instance, say that a couple constantly seems to disagree about all of the decisions they need to make together. It seems like everything is a fight and they both have to work hard to try to get their way. Then, one day, those arguments stop. One spouse stops pushing back against the other person’s opinions and it seems like things are going much more smoothly.
What may actually have happened is that the other spouse decided that they were going to ask for a divorce. Since they’ve made that decision, even if they haven’t brought it up yet, they are no longer emotionally invested in the relationship. They will stop arguing simply because they know that they’re going to leave. Winning or losing the argument doesn’t matter anymore.
Divorce can be very complicated for any couple. Those who are ending their marriage certainly need to take the time to look into all of their legal options.